Till Children Do Us Part

Originally published in the New York Times, February 5, 2009, p. 27

"More than 25 separate studies have established that marital quality drops, often quite steeply, after the transition to parenthood." But does the arrival of children doom couples to a less satisfying marriage? Not necessarily. But keeping a marriage vibrant is a never-ending job.

If parents want tips as to how to make a marriage "vibrant," click here to read Stephanie's article, But here's a hint. As Stephanie points out, "Children don't want to spend as much time with their parents as parents assume; they just want their parents to be more relaxed when they are together."

Stephanie Coontz, a professor of history at Evergreen State College and the director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families, is the author of "Marriage: A History."

connect with us on facebook

From the Blog:


Please enter a search term to begin your search.


I would like to thank the following for their generous support, without whom this web site and training program would not exist: The Sidney R. Baer, Jr. Foundation, The Alden Trust, the Commonwealth of Massachusetts Department of Mental Health, Project INTERFACE (Newton Public Schools and the U.S. Department of Education), the Locke Educational Fund at Newton- Wellesley Hospital, Aetna Health Plan, the Kenneth B. Schwartz Center,  and the families of my medical practice. 

I hope you find this site useful and encourage any comments.

- Dr. Howard King, M.D.